before you say I do

Before You Say I do

Welcome back to my great world where I air my views, my opinions and as well open to rubbing minds together on some topics.

Today’s topic is coming from few years of observation and volunteer work in different health institutions in regards to essentials before you say I do to your significant order.

before you say I do

We all are excited when we are about to walk down the aisle or when someone close to us is about to take that great aisle walk that we forget our/their health in terms of general necessary tests before the ceremony.

Seen handful of couples discover things that could have been found out before exchange of vows, heard divorce cases based on findings that could have occurred earlier and I am like is it that no one told them about these or that they were told and they refused to listen or they played faith.  Well, not to be misunderstood I believe in changes which can occur by faith but faith without works is dead which the good book makes us to understand.

Will start with the basic important tests but before then I would like to say that gone are the days intercourse was a taboo, traditional checking of virgins was a prerequisite.

For love, sex and purity has been successfully mixed together that they flow alongside each other so this rules out virginity test if there’s any laboratory test like that and pregnancy test although most Christian organisations stand firm in regard to that and may not conduct a wedding if found pregnant before time.

STIs/ STDs – (Sexually Transmitted Infections/Diseases )

1.  HIV: This is one sexually transmitted disease that takes some time before it’s detection although with new innovations like Alere that claims to provide accurate results in 20 minutes, one should know his/her status.  Whether sexually active or not, it’s paramount that every individual goes for check up once in a while for there are other ways of contacting this disease like in salons for both genders and syringe exchange for drug users. Up until now that this post was written, HIV has no definite cure but has preventive measures and this disease can really pose as life threat to intending couples.

2. Hepatitis B and C: Most times these duo are not seen facially as STI, maybe because little or no awareness on it or I dunno actually.  Basically they are inflammation of the liver with intimate sexual contact as means of transmission and should be checked for in yearly routine medical check up including intending couples especially for the sake of unborn kids because Hepatitis C can be passed from mother to child. Good news is that there are vaccines for them, they are preventable and they can be cured in the acute phase when the virus can no longer be detected in the blood when measured.

3. Gonorrhoea: Sometimes not considered serious because it can be termed a common infection among sexually active persons but hey it’s serious and can be passed from mother to child too. I am sure, no one wants their innocent kids suffering all the time from infection contracted from few minutes of pleasure.

4. Syphilis: A serious STI that yes can be cured but has severe complications when not managed properly.

5. Bacterial Vaginosis: This STI is peculiar to women but in event of being infected,  sometimes it’s advisable to treat the Male counterpart as well. BV as it’s popularly called can be contracted through unsafe sex practices and excessive douching. Ladies the vagina is self cleaning, could we stop all these douching practices and stop upsetting the natural bacteria balance of the vagina? Douching does more harm than good.

6. Genital Herpes

7. HPV (Human Papillomavirus) which is the main etiologic agent for Cervical Cancer

Blood Compatibility

Genotype and blood groups where each blood group could either be Rhesus positive of negative.  Sometimes some people think the only issues are in both intending couples being AS or SS but do you know there are other blood Compatibility issues out there in regard to Rhesus factors especially when the woman is Rhesus negative.

Well not to panic, a solution is out there for Rhesus negative mothers.  (Rhogam) administered mostly within 72hours after first pregnancy but it’s important to know if your blood is compatible with your significant other before the ceremony to avoid emotional stress.

Fertility Test

There’s no specific test for this but definitely includes tests like pap smear, transvaginal ultrasound , hysterosalpinogram, semen analysis and some more.

Same time deep conversations with one another that could reveal if one is impotent or not due to several abortions on the female side or accident that could have marred the Male genitals.

Genetic Testing

This is a medical test that identifies changes in chromosomes, Genes or proteins. It rules out suspected genetic conditions as well as aids in determining possibility of passing on genetic disorders .

I know someone might think it’s overboard prolly due to financial involvement but same time I would like to believe that no one would like to give birth to kids with genetic disorders, it’s more financially involving and emotionally draining when they are born with genetic disorders that could have been prevented.  We can avoid these by going for proper medical tests before time.

In all I hope we find happiness in each other..

Remember you are not testing just to fulfill church rites but to know your health status and save unborn innocent kids from entering the already over populated world.

Your health first before anything else. Go for regular routine check up even before the D- day.

Stay healthy!

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2 thoughts on “Before You Say I do”

  1. Wow. Definitely some very thoughtful, smart steps to take! I can’t image how someone would feel marrying someone who wasn’t honest about having any of the issues listed in the article. Thank you for sharing!

    1. Oh people do marry without being honest about any of the issues discussed which is why it is encouraged to discuss detailed before walking down the aisle. Thank you too for reading.
      Cheers!

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